Two things keep coming to mind as I ponder and pray about this issue. First, God is still God. A court decision cannot change that. Whatever you and I think about the definition of marriage doesn't change what it truly is. His sovereignty cannot be diminished by man's opinion.
Second, in Christ, there is no division. We are ALL sinners in need of His grace. There is a tendency to blow up homosexuality as the chief among sins. I've heard questions asked such as, "can you embrace a homosexual lifestyle and still be a Christian?" And I think that's the wrong question to be asking altogether. Instead, as Christians, we should be asking ourselves, "how can I most reflect God with my life and glorify Him with my choices? What sort of lifestyle creates closer, deeper relationship with Him?"
Looking inward, I find myself practicing the very things I am tempted to judge in others. I condone pride, I grasp control, and I "legalize" outright rebellion against God on a daily basis. I say to God, "I can make my own choices, thank you very much" as if He isn't my Creator and Lord and I don't have to answer to Him.
But praise and honor to Him who died for me and chose to love me despite my unworthiness!
I hope and pray in the coming days that our lives and our words will be inspired by His love and speak louder than any hate or condemnation. May we extend the same grace that God has extended towards us.